Why Is It... people so easily make judgments and decisions based "I think" vs. "I know"? Putting it simply, "I think" is an opinion, an impression, or a gut feeling, but not supported by facts. "I know," on the other hand, is supported by facts, and independently verifiable. Why is this important? Because we operate as if our opinions or stories are real; are true. And then of course we REACT TO THEM! By virtue of putting these ideas and reactions out to the universe, we actually now invite a reaction, one based on our reaction to our "I think". Hmmmm! Oh, what a tangled web we weave. This chain of events may be totally based on our stories or untruths. The irony here is that we can now look in the mirror when we are displeased with the new situation and take full responsibility for the current state. Of course, few of us ever take responsibility for our complicity in the event. Oh no; we spend the next segment of time blaming and reacting to another story and the person who is on the other side does the same. And on it goes. Therein lies the rub--much of our conflict is actually self induced if not at least initiated or further complicated by our own participation.
To stop the madness, simply ask yourself this series of questions: " Do I think or know this? Is it available to independent scrutiny and can be verified?" Then it is a fact. That, my friend, has some merit in pursuing; as a further line of inquiry. If you discover it is an "I think" a story, or opinion, then shut the barn door on your emotions and your emotional reaction. Seek to understand, verify, and be curious. Bring closure through appreciative inquiry. You will use less aspirin, antacids, and perhaps, find yourself in a happier place! This much I know!! ET